We’ve engaged in some small talk here at Rhi in Pink over the past couple weeks over this whole online dating thing. I’ve been caught saying several times, “Well, that might work for so and so, but it’s just not for me.” And, last year, I even signed up for eHarmony for 30 minutes but became too panicky about dating someone other than my beloved Hugh (it was only a couple months after our breakup) that I threw up, then called and canceled my membership. (Side note: Anyone who knows me will tell you that if i am nervous, or upset, I vomit, but I DO NOT have an eating disorder)
So, Thursday night I was having dinner with some of my dear girlfriends and watching So You Think You Can Dance? (and, by the way, yes I do) and during the commercial break, that old gentleman from eHarmony, Dr. Whatshisnose let us know that it was free communication weekend. Hmmm. The wheels in my head began to turn.
And, I did it. I signed up. Now, here is the deal with free communication weekend. You don’t get to see photos. I got tons of matches and weeded through them, starting communication with a few. I thought maybe the no picture deal would be a good thing for me, so I could first get to know them intellectually, and then later see their pictures.
So, some notes:
- I am sorry, but I cannot date anyone shorter than me. They can be the same height, but not shorter. I am a TALL GIRL. 5’11″ if you’re curious. So, a relationship with a guy who is 5’5″ probably isn’t going to work out.
- I will not date anyone with children. I know there are probably some great guys out there who have children, but I’ve done this in the past and it’s almost harder to stop seeing the child after a break up. Also when I finally settle down, and perhaps start a family with someone, I’d like us to be going through the becoming parents thing for the first time together. Make sense?
- There should be a place to indicate the volume in which you speak, and just conduct yourself overall. I am LOUD. I talk loud, I laugh loud. My entire family is this way. This drives certain people with whom I may have dated for two years, and broken up with recently CRAZY.
- One thing that seems to be working is that I am being matched with guys who are at the same place in their careers that I am. I am a professional (stop laughing) and I expect this of my future mate.
- One guy put in profile that he wishes more people would notice that he’s really, really ridiculously good looking. And? I may have proposed to him. Zoolander lines get me every time.
So, I paid for my membership, and am pleasantly surprised that all the guys I’ve been communicating with are quite cute, and maybe even totally my type. I’m going to do this at least for a month – I think I owe it to myself. Clearly, my previous methods of meeting guys are not working out (at work, or at a bar) so, I think I’ll give those a rest.
Unless any of you have a hot brother, I’m sticking with this.
